How to be kind to yourself when you've messed up.
The kind of mistake you can't stop replaying — and what the research says about why beating yourself up makes it worse.
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Articles & practices.
Plain-language writing on what the research actually says, what the practice actually feels like, and what to try this week. New pieces drop on a roughly weekly cadence.
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Foundations · 8 min read What is mindful self-compassion? A scientist's introduction.
The three components, the research base, and the one misconception that keeps people from trying it.
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Science · 7 min read Self-compassion vs. self-esteem: what the research actually says.
Why most of the benefits people attribute to self-esteem actually come from self-compassion — and why the distinction matters.
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Practice · 6 min read Self-compassion for high achievers: won't it make me lazy?
The most common worry I hear from clients. The data is unambiguous — and it points the other way.
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Science · 8 min read The science of self-compassion in 5 studies.
Two decades of research, condensed to the five inflection-point papers a literate reader should know.
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